HAPPY WORKING MOTHERS FOR HAPPY CHILDREN
5 February 2018 Share

HAPPY WORKING MOTHERS FOR HAPPY CHILDREN

According to Zeynep Melis Suveren, Psychologist at Yaşar University’s Directorate of Health Culture and Sports, the quality of time spent with children is of high significance.

Most of the mothers that return to work after maternity leave entrust their children to grandparents or nannies for their children’s day care. Those who think that they are not spending enough time with their children are mostly worried or feel guilty. However; it’s not the amount of the time spent with children but the quality of that time, notes Psychologist Suveren. She also adds that, “A balanced distribution of tasks between partners also enables you to spend satisfying and qualified time with your children.” 

According to a research conducted jointly by Turkish Statistical Institute and the Ministry of Family and Social Policies in İstanbul, Ankara and İzmir, 86% of the mothers with a child aged 0-5 years assume responsibility to look after their children. Those who go back to work after maternity leave, on the other side, seek help from their own parents or nannies. Noting that there is nothing to worry about for mothers as long as conditions are favorable and, especially, if they have their partner’s support, Psychologist Suveren also says, “Think that you are a mirror, and you will glow with happiness and spread that happiness for the people around you as long as you are happy. Therefore, first things first, mothers should be happy and enjoy their work and workplace. Don’t feel obliged to compensate for the time when you are apart from your child. What is actually important is the quality of that time. For example, even if you are at home 24/7 with your child, that time together with your child does not mean anything when you watch TV and deal with housework all the time, without allocating one-on-one time for your child. A thirty-minute period of time that you spend by fully focusing on your child is way more precious than a three-hour period with nothing purposeful or substantial. The healthier your connection with your child is and the more efficient time you spend with your child, the stronger your bond with your child will be.”